While we all might be curious about the best plunger or probiotic tampon or cold-sore remedy, it can be difficult to discuss these more personal items. That’s why we’re tackling Things We Don’t Talk About, a series in which we track down the best hygiene-, sex-, and bodily function–related things we all need but might be too embarrassed to ask about. Today, recommendations on the best couples sex toys (just in time for Valentine’s Day).
Almost any sex toy you might have in your bedside dresser right now, from a high-design vibrator to a decidedly non-vibrating dildo, can become a couples sex toy. All you have to do is add another person to the mix — and if you are interested in using more toys with your partner, experimenting with the toys and vibrators you already own and know (and probably love) together is a great place to start. But if you’re looking to try something totally new, or want some help mixing things up in the bedroom, there are plenty of clever, innovative sex toys designed specifically for couples. And to save you the trouble of trying out a bunch of duds, we asked three experts to share their favorite couples sex toys, ones that are safe, easy to use, and, of course, lots of fun.
Vibrating Couples Sex Toys
If you’re looking for a nonthreatening couples sex toy, writer and sex and relationship expert Shelby Sells recommends the Squish, from feminist sex toy company Unbound. “It’s really soft, and it’s a vibrator” she says, “but it doesn’t look like a vibrator. It doesn’t have a phallic shape.” Rather, the little raindrop looks more like a makeup sponge, and it feels just as squishy, as the name suggests. When you squeeze the Squish, the vibration gets stronger, and its unassuming, pliable shape makes it easy to slip in between you and a partner if you want clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex, too. “You don’t necessarily need a hand,” Sells explains. “It’s just a get-’em-where-you-fit-‘em kind of thing, and luckily, it fits in pretty much everywhere.”