SHE SAYS… Do sex toys add excitement to relationships? Or do they send the message that your partner doesn’t think you can satisfy them?

Most of the men I’ve talked to feel that if their woman brings in a sex toy it is because they are not satisfying their woman. To that I say, man up. Not everything is about you, boo. Not all women use toys in the relationship to satisfy a need that you aren’t fulfilling. In fact, toys are usually brought in for two main reasons: to add excitement or as a learning tool.

Let’s be honest. After a while, sex with the same person day after day can become boring. You find yourself going through the motions and thinking about how many loads of laundry you can get done before you go to sleep while striving for that orgasm. Sex toys can liven things up. I’m not saying have your man swing from a chandelier but a small vibrator can take your ordinary sex life and make it something spectacular. Sex toys can make everything feel new again. Remember when you and your man first got together? The spontaneity and the adventure. Everything was fresh and exciting. Every sexual encounter was passion filled because you were learning each other. You can recapture that with vibrators, butt plugs, dildos, swings, or whatever else tickles your pickle. All you have to do is be bold and tell your mate what you want.

Source: Medium