I knew this day would come. I had read about this day on I don’t even know how many blogs. I’m talking, of course, about the day I would be spoiled by dual density silicone. Wrangling the Flurry O2 from its package, I knew from the moment I squeezed its squishy firmness in my hand, that this was Read More

The Lelo Mia 2 damn near broke my heart. I tried to prepare myself, tried to steady my anxieties when I found out that the tapered end is not the end meant to be used. I slowly chanted this information (that the tapered end covers the USB port and was not an answer to my prayers for Read More

Buying a sex toy can be tricky, especially if you’ve never owned one before. Here’s some things to keep in mind. 1) First things first, you must know thyself. Many come to sex toys to fix a problem. There’s nothing wrong with this. I bought my first vibe because I wanted to have orgasms more Read More

Discovering The Brat There’s nothing quite like those moments when you find out that there’s a word for what you feel, when you feel a concept snap into place. In moments like these, I feel connected to histories, experiences, and something so far beyond the “me.” Finding the words “bratty bottom” was like that. I first heard the Read More

Well, that, and I have a thing for rooting for the little guy. The Splish from Tantus is a wee bitty thing at 4.5 insertable inches and a max diameter of 1″.. What’s the Splish and what’s it supposed to do? The Tantus Splish is a body-safe, 100% silicone non-vibrating dildo. It is safe for both anal and vaginal use. Here’s Read More

Today I’d like to spend some time talking about my favorite toy: the Magic Wand Original, formerly known as the Hitachi. When I tell my partner to “Grab the vibrator” or my partner asks me if I’d like them to “grab the vibrator,” we’re both referring to the Magic Wand. In my household, the Magic Wand Read More

In my first book review, I struggled with how to connect my academic voice to my carnal engagement with the book itself. I still like the review, a lot, and love what writer Xan West had to say about it in this review of my review. But, immediately, starting Best Women’s Erotica 2014 from Cleis Press, I knew that Read More

Books played an integral role in my sexuality. Stumbling upon smutty passages in YA novels, I felt the first confused and clumsy stirrings of my sensual self. These passages were like delicious, little secrets, I could read them anywhere with a  knowing smile—-they don’t know what’s really going on here.  So, I was beyond thrilled Read More

This is one of my favorite passages by Cixous: To rise above the interior chaosmos each one of us gives ourselves a spokesperson I, the social I who votes, who represents me. I have an I who teaches. I have an I who escapes me. I have an I who answers for me. I have Read More

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