How to Introduce Sex Toys Into Your Relationship

How vibrators and other sex toys can boost the intimacy in your relationship—and even your health.

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How sex toys impact relationships

Here’s a not-so-dirty little secret: sex is good for you! It may lengthen your life, boost your heart health and immune system, reduce pain and stress and improve your sleep, according to a report co-authored by Beverly Whipple, professor emerita at Rutgers University and co-author of The Science of Orgasmand The G Spot: And Other Discoveries about Human Sexuality.

As for sex toys, there’s no evidence yet that they directly improve health, but they can definitely help you express yourself sexually. “For people who are comfortable using them, they bring a lot of pleasure to self-stimulation or stimulation with a partner,” says Whipple.

More and more women are using vibrators these days, especially those under 30. And while it’s a good thing that sex accessories are allowing women to take pleasure, er, into their own hands, it’s often a win-win for both partners. “Research shows that women who are highly sexual are more likely to be using vibrators,” says Edward Herold, professor emeritus in the department of family relations and applied nutrition at the University of Guelph, and co-author of Human Sexuality in a World of Diversity. (Here are 49 more sex facts you don’t want to miss.)

How to introduce sex toys into your relationship

Although some women worry that their partner will find sex toys threatening, they can actually help couples enjoy a more fun and adventurous sex life. “Couples who have a more playful attitude towards sex have a more satisfying sexual relationship,” he adds. (Psst: These are the most common sexual fantasies.)

Not sure if your partner would find sex toys a turn-on or a turn-off? Try introducing the topic in stages. Sarah Forbes-Roberts, co-owner of Come As You Are in Toronto, likes an idea she read by New York sex educator and writer Ducky Doolittle:

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